A Friendly Reminder That the Best Gifts Are Free

12.23.2020 — The Frenshe Editors

Getting caught up on the holiday craze of stress, over-purchasing, or just the woes of 2020, it’s easy to forget about the simple things. This time of year is meant to bring us moments and memories that you can never put a price tag on, so it’s not all about the gifts. Gratitude, laughter, and kindness are just a handful of what you can take away from this holiday season or 2020 in general. After all, you know what they say, the best things in life are free!


Stop and recognize all of the things that you’re grateful for. The pandemic has made it especially hard to acknowledge all of the things that you’re blessed with, and it’s easier to focus on the negative instead. Take a moment to sit with yourself and really think about what you’re grateful for at this exact moment. Is it your health? Your family? Your home? Maybe it’s something that you never really paid a lot mind to in the past. That’s the thing about this year, it’s making us appreciate the little things in life so much more. If it helps, write it down and look at it later when you’re having not-so-great days again. We had so many months of non-traditional transformation and growth; that’s worth some appreciation. 


Did you get to take more time for yourself this year? Were you able to strengthen your relationships with your family and friends? Were you able to learn more about yourself? Did you get more time to focus on your hobbies and passions? Reflection is all about recognizing the growth you’ve endured, the development you’ve experienced, and the progress you’ve made. Even through a pandemic, everyone was constantly evolving, growing and changing. And the thing about change is, it’s meant to be embraced. What about yourself will you continue developing and working on into 2021? Are there any reflections that you made about yourself that motivated you to get through the year? Looking back at these moments can only help your future view remain even clearer. 


Building memories goes hand-in-hand with gratitude and reflection. We have the chance to make new memories everyday, and that’s especially true throughout the holidays. We can go into next year with a fresh outlook that making memories with our loved ones is more permanent and rewarding than focusing on materialistic things that don’t leave any true value. Let’s face it, 2020 forced a lot of us to rekindle and strengthen relationships that we had previously taken for granted—a great lesson we can take into 2021.


If there’s one thing this year was full of it was conversation, and many in the unconventional form. Hello, Zoom! But on a serious note, a lot uncomfortable conversations took place this year that broke boundaries, shook up the room, changed relationships, and strengthened others. There’s a saying that says, “an uncomfortable conversation is a conversation worth having,” and we couldn’t agree more. Now that’s not to say you have to start debates at the holiday table, but if someone is willing to have an open, honest, and healthy discussion, it’s worth the listen. Another things that we all learned this year is that we can never learn too much, even if we don’t exactly agree. Make room for meaningful conversations as the year wraps up and beyond. 


We’ve heard it before—laughter is the best medicine. But it is, in fact, the best medicine. Laughter has been proven to reduce anxiety, decrease stress, and increase serotonin and positive energy—something that everybody needs. You know at Frenshe we’re all about living your best life and finding your true happiness, so we want you to get all the laughter you can! And what’s the best thing about laughter? It’s literally everywhere and it’s free. Center yourself around high spirits and the things that truly make you smile and laugh—after all the holidays should be about happiness! 


Now we don’t want to sound cliché, but please be kind to yourself this year. Hear us out, but active kindness is one of the most humbling human experiences ever. While people are often kinder during the holiday season anyway, everyone really stepped it up in 2020 considering how tough it was on all of us (it should be this way every year!). We should all inspire to be kind-hearted people who don’t expect anything in return. We could all be a little more patient, a little more loving, a little better at understanding, and a little more kind. Who wouldn’t want to be the light in someone’s life!? Radiate kindness and you’ll watch it follow you. 

If the holidays feel “off” this year, take some time to focus on these things. They’re not only eye-opening, but they’ll help put things into perspective and remind you of the little things that matter so much more than gifts. We all need more cheer and holiday spirit, and more life lessons to bring into the new year. Happy Holidays!

The Frenshe Editors