How I Handle Political Conversations During the Holidays

11.23.2020 — Ashley

There’s a reason they say it’s best to leave politics out of the dinner conversation. Well, this year I can only emphasize that even more. Let’s face it, the last couple of months have been intense, heated, and difficult to deal with. And to be quite honest, if you have a family member (or multiple family members) who might think differently than you do, normal conversations can be very hard to navigate.

My biggest advice is that if these uncomfortable conversations do happen to pop up, try to lead with love, try to listen, and then move on and change the subject. I recently had some heated conversations with a really close friend of mine who had such different opinions than me, and I was super bummed about it. I couldn’t understand her way of thinking BUT I did take the time to listen. It was really frustrating and at times I was nervous that these conversations might possibly separate us from being friends in the long run.

I remembered reading a book called The Presence Process which is all about being present. In the book, it explains how war and politics are meant to divide us. I meditated in the morning and realized I needed to lead with love, and none of us will ever move forward if we just toss away relationships and friendships. When you remove those subjects and are truly present in the moment you realize you can find some common ground. This is not to say that you shouldn’t stand up for what you believe in, but I do think there is a time and place for everything. If you’re fortunate enough to be able to celebrate with your family this year, I say stay present, stay loving, and try your best to not bring up politics!