The Importance of Maintaining Adult Friendships

08.06.2021 — The Frenshe Editors

As we get older, friendships change and that’s a fact. As we grow into adulthood some friends go and new ones come, but the importance of maintaining strong and valuable connections never fades. You’ll have friends who you can call for a coffee date or lunch, friends who you can travel with, and friends who you can do business with—which is something you’ll also realize as time passes. In honor of National Friendship Day this upcoming Sunday, we wanted to highlight how to maintain healthy friendships and meaningful relationships as an adult. And if you’re struggling with making new friends, whether it be at work or socially, these tidbits work for you too. We all deserve valuable friendships, but we also have to be good friends too. 

Respect Each Other’s Boundaries 

Your idea of fun may not be everyone else’s, and that’s okay. Some people don’t drink alcohol, others prefer to hang out at home, and so many other scenarios involve us living different lives. Either way, respecting each other’s boundaries should always be a priority. If you’re going to be someone’s friend, you might have to compromise a thing or two to be a ‘good’ friend.

Understand Everyone’s Timeline Is Different 

One thing we all need to keep in mind is that everyone’s timeline is so different. Just because your friends have kids doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends and vice versa. Maybe some of your friends are at a point in life where marriage is on the table and you’re still single—again, that doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be friends. But, we should never shame each other for being in different stages of life.

Set Up Recurring Friend Dates

It’s hard to keep up with everyone’s schedule enough as it is. So, setting up a recurring friend date can make it so much easier. Agree to meet as a group or one-on-one on a certain day of each month. This way you can rest assured knowing that you’ll be seeing your friends and you’ll have something to look forward to. Of course, life happens and sometimes things might not always go as planned, but this is still a great way to hold each other accountable and have a plan set in stone.

Keep Quality Over Quantity in Mind

It’s a lot less important to us to have a lot of friends as adults. When you’re younger, fitting in is usually a top priority, but once you grow you realize that the quality of friendships matters more than how many friends you have. Keep in mind that having a handful of solid and valuable friendships is so much better than having a large group of friends.

Put Yourself Out There

If you’re looking to make some new friends as an adult, you know that it can be pretty hard. This usually happens when people move to a new city or they’re moving onto a different chapter of life, but it’s not impossible to make new friends when you’re older by any means. And the easiest way to do so is by putting yourself out there! Joining local activities, signing up for apps like Bumble BFF, and even getting to know your coworkers more can all lead to new friendships.

Leave Zero Room for Drama

At the end of the day, drama is not worth your energy, and sometimes you’ll have to cut certain friendships for your own peace and sanity. Sometimes those different stages of life between friends become a problem and it’s also very common. As you get older, your friend circle will likely get smaller and it’s usually due to simply no longer seeing eye to eye. If there’s drama surrounding a certain connection, then it could be time to let it go. Do not surround yourself with energy vampires. 

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The Frenshe Editors